Last weekend Liz and I drove down the Philadelphia area for a friend’s wedding. It was really a spectacular event, even with the monsoon that came pouring down during the ceremony. But more than anything, I realized yet again what I sometimes forget about weddings:
No matter what preconceived notions we might all have about them, the joy experienced at the wedding (both ceremony and reception) has almost nothing to do with venue or expense. It doesn’t matter how much you spend, whether youLast weekend Liz and I drove down the Philadelphia area for a friend’s wedding. It was really a spectacular event, even with the monsoon that came pouring down during the ceremony. But more than anything, I realized yet again what I sometimes forget about weddings:
No matter what preconceived notions we might all have about them, the joy experienced at the wedding (both ceremony and reception) has almost nothing to do with venue or expense. It doesn’t matter how much you spend, whether you have a band or a dj, summer or winter, big wedding or small wedding.
It’s all about tone. You can spend a million bucks and still throw the most boring wedding on Earth. And you can do it completely on the cheap and have the most fun you’ve ever had. You don’t need to serve fancy shmancy o’ dourves or crystal goblets, and you certainly can’t serve perfect. Perfect doesn’t exist.
At least in my mind, a wedding is supposed to be a joyous occasion, and if you allow your joy to come out, chances are, your guests will be joyous, too. Of course, there’s all sorts of unpredictable happenings that can challenge any wedding, but that’s almost half the fun.
Get your friends and family in a room, make a proclamation of commitment in public, and then par-tay in whatever way suits you best. Big or small, expensive or not, weddings are about bringing people together, and when they come off, they’re really something to see.
